Going through a divorce is always an emotional time. Some women who stay home with minor children often find it particularly difficult. At Springer & Lyle, we recognize this and help you through the process so that you can emerge on the other side as a whole person ready to face the world.
An organization that specifically provides coaching to women who are going through a divorce has come up with eight things they think divorcing mothers should know. Using that as a guide, we offer some tips for moms going through a divorce.
Tips For Divorcing Moms
Educate yourself. Talk with your attorney to learn the laws of your state concerning all issues: asset division, child custody (conservatorship in Texas), child visitation (possession), child support, and spousal support.
When you are informed and have all the information you need, you can go through the process and not feel taken advantage of. You can positively participate in settlement negotiations because you know what your rights are.
Keep your focus on your children. Divorce is tough on children. They may enjoy living with their parents separately without conflict in the home. But they always worry they did something wrong, and the divorce is their fault. Make it clear to them that the divorce has nothing to do with them, and it is strictly between you and their father.
Have a support system. This is not a time to be stoic. You need someone to talk to when your emotions spill over. If you have a good friend who can fill that spot, that is great. Consider a therapist with whom you can share your deepest thoughts without judgment.
Create boundaries for your ex-husband. One mom said she fixed dinner for her ex and their children on Sunday evenings for when he brought the children back. It made her uncomfortable. She finally told her ex-spouse this and asked him to drop the children at the front door and for him to say goodbye to the children there.
You will always have the children in common. There will be recitals, soccer games, school plays, graduations, weddings, etc. for you both to attend. Determine in advance how you want to handle these events.
Contact Family Law Attorneys at Springer & Lyle
Our family law attorneys at Springer & Lyle know the emotional toll a divorce takes. We are committed to helping you through the process in the least adversarial way so you can land on the other side ready to go forward into your new life. No matter where you are in the divorce process, contact Daniel Abasolo at 940.387.0404 to schedule a consultation.
